Single woman in her 20s who has been on 150 dates across 30+ countries, yet still single!
Series: After living for over 30 years, I suddenly realised that I know more than five single women. Some are in their 20s, 30s, and 40s. I Can’t figure it out and need your help to find answers for my friends!
Collecting voices from around the world and sharing interesting stories, I am your host, Ms. Solo. A wonderful day must start with sharing a story, and today I want to share with you a theme submitted by a netizen.
Among my friends, she is the top single woman who has explored all the dating apps and mastered all the techniques. She comes from a good background, is highly educated, has refined features, and is cultured. She holds a managerial position, owns a car and a house, and has a great sense of style. If she has any flaws, it’s probably that she weighs 110kg and doesn’t like doing housework and exercise. (OS: A bit lazy)
According to her, she started using dating apps at the age of 25 and has since been on 150 dates with men from over 30 countries, covering almost all of Southeast Asia and some Western countries. I wonder if any of you have had similar experiences, where the men you meet on the app start trying to sell you products, arrange hookups, or even scam you after some deep conversations or meetings. My friend is amazing. After six months of using these apps, she managed to come up with a system to successfully filter out men with bad intentions or impure motives based on their profile pictures, verified identities, and opening lines in chats.
She squeezes in dates with these filtered men twice a week, once on weekends and once on a weekday. She also spends at least two hours every day on these apps looking for potential dates. (OS: How else could she find so many!) She works in internet data analysis, so she habitually keeps a small notebook recording basic information about all the men she has dated, including their names, ages, professions, and meeting locations. Based on her analysis, she has also summarized some patterns she has observed in her dating experience.
Summary of Observations:
- Southeast Asian men: Southeast Asian men are very reserved. They tend to prefer voice calls and text chats. Before meeting, they are particularly active and can talk about anything, but they become quiet after meeting in person.
- Western men: Western men are relatively bold. They prefer to arrange in-person meetings or video calls and don’t like texting.
Report Summary:
Based on her analysis and records, her dating experiences are summarized as follows:
- 10% of the men will try to sell you products or services.
- 30% of the men genuinely want hookups (with the highest probability among Japanese, Korean, and Western men).
(Continued):
- Many Homebodies: They don’t like to take the initiative to ask girls out.
- Career-Oriented Men: They don’t want a long-term relationship that ties them down.
- Mama’s Boys: They always introduce their dates to their mothers first.
- Ordinary, Normal Men: They are looking for marriage partners.
- Not Attractive to Her: Their appearance doesn’t meet her aesthetic standards.
Her report also includes some scattered observations: only 10% of men ask to split the bill, while most men still take the initiative to pay. Even if they don’t like her, some men won’t show it on the spot and at most will block and delete her afterwards. By now, I believe everyone must be curious: after dating so many men, hasn’t my friend found anyone who can help her find a partner? As her friend, I was curious too, but after hearing her five main criteria for choosing a partner, I was speechless.
- He must earn more than her, with a monthly income of over 10,000.
- He cannot drive a domestic car.
- He must be at least 170 cm tall.
- He must have savings of 1.7 million.
- His private parts must be 17 cm long.
After reading her criteria, I also came up with some of my own thoughts: she’s looking for a tall, rich, and handsome guy (OS: Who doesn’t want that?). Dating apps undoubtedly break down barriers and increase the chances of meeting people from different countries. During her 150 dates, there were indeed several men who expressed interest in and pursued her, but she rejected them all. She realized that she had many options, so her standards kept getting higher. If one didn’t meet her criteria, she would look for someone better, always hoping the next man would be the perfect one. This unknowingly prevented her from ever breaking her single status. She constantly yearns for someone better, someone who meets all her criteria. Apps also tend to create a fast-food love phenomenon, with many finding love, but just as many remaining single.
Do you think my friend can still find a boyfriend? Leave your comments and let me know your thoughts.
活了30多年，突然发现身边的母单超过了五根手指，有 20 30 40 的，一直想不明白，需要大家帮帮我的朋友们找出答案！
第一位：20代的母单花朋友 – M小姐姐 （约会了150 次并且超过 30 个国家的白富胖小姐姐）
说到母胎单身，就得先给大家分享我身边一个牛逼的女生朋友。
她是我认识的朋友里面，是个已经玩遍所有约会软件，并且把里面的技巧都玩得烂熟于心的顶级母单花。
她本身就是出身不错的高学历女生，五官端正，人又有文化，自己是经理级别，有车有房，穿搭品味在线，要说有什么缺点的话，大概就是他是个体重 110kg 和不喜欢做家务的女生。 （OS：有点懒惰型）
据她分享，他从 25 岁就开始玩 dating app，到今天，一共约会过 150 次超过 30 个国家的男人，几乎覆盖东南亚和部分欧美地区国家。
不知道大家有没有类似的经验，在 app 里你刷到的男生在经过深入聊天/见面之后，就会开始跟你卖产品，约炮甚至是要诈骗你的钱。
我这个朋友，那可叫一个牛逼。
混迹 app 的六个月后，硬是琢磨出一套可以透过对方的头像，户口认证和聊天开场白就可以成功筛选掉一些不怀好意，动机不单纯的男人。
她一周里面，每次都会挤出周末和平日各一天出来跟这些她筛选过的男人出来约会，就一周至少两次。而每天也会抽出至少两个小时泡在这些 app 里刷对象。 （OS: 不然怎么找到那么多呢！）
她本身就是从事互联网数据分析的，所以因为习惯，自己也搞了一本小册子，记录了所有与她约会过的男生的基本资料。从名字，年龄，到职业和约会地点。
据她的分析，也给我总结了一份约会至今所发现的现象。
一：东南亚男生都很含蓄，倾向于和你通话聊天和文字聊天。没见面前特别的活跃，什么都能聊，见面了就安静如鸡。
二：欧美男生相对大胆，倾向于约出来见面或者视频通话，不喜欢文字信息。
她的报告里面还总结了，跟他约会的男生里面，有 10%是会跟你兜售产品/服务，有 30%是真的要约炮（其中概率最高的是日韩，欧美男人）其余部分我再给大家总结：
- 宅男偏多，不喜欢主动约女生
- 事业男，不需要一个绑定自己的长期关系
- 妈宝男，每次交往都会先带给妈妈看
- 普通正常的男人，要找结婚对象的
- 不合自己眼缘
这里面还有一些零散的总结包括，只有 10%的男人会要求 AA，大部分男的还是会主动付钱。部分男生即使不喜欢也不会当场甩脸，事后最多也就是把她拉黑删掉而已。
看到这里，我相信大家都会很好奇，我这个朋友约会过那么多男生难道就没有一个能让她成功脱单的吗？
身为她的朋友，我也好奇过，但是听过她给我总结的五大择偶条件之后，我沉默了。
- 薪水要比她高，月入过万程度
- 不可以驾国产车
- 身高一定要 170cm 以上
- 存款要有 7mil
- 弟弟要有 17cm （OS: 好会享受哦！）
看完她的总结，我自己也总结了一些我的想法，就是高富帅 （OS: 谁不想啊）。约会 app 无疑是打破大家无国界界限，增加认识不同国家的人的机会。我这个朋友在与 150 个男人约会的期间，中间确实不乏有几个男人跟她表达和追求她，但无一都被她拒绝了。
因为她发现自己的选择很多，所以要求越变越高了。
这个不行，就再找一个更好的，每次都会憧憬下一个更好的男人出现。
这在无形中也造成了她从未打破脱单记录，内心里一直在渴求更好，条件更符合的对象出现。而
App 也确实容易造成快餐爱情的现象，获得爱情的人比比皆是，而至今单身的也比比皆是。
你们说，我这个朋友还能找到男朋友吗？
留下你的评论，跟我说说你的想法。
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